How to live a drama free life

There are a million cliche's in the world, most of which have some beneficial meaning. As the old saying goes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, one man's trash is another man's treasure, life is what you make of it, when life hands you lemons make lemonade, it is what it is, etc... Everyone has heard one of these at some point in life.

If you are not happy with your life, your image, your family, your friends, try changing YOUR perspective first before you change anything else. So many times I over hear people speak about themselves or the people they care about in such hateful and negative ways. I have to wonder where did all the hate come from?

Everything in life can be related to balance. Think back through your life, try to remember something really big, something really bad that happened to you. Now, start to think forward about the events that happened shortly after that really big, really bad thing happened. Did you have good things happen after? Did you find help where you least expected it? Support from people you never thought cared? Did you eventually get over it?

This is the Yin & Yang of life. For every action there is a re-action, for every cause there in an effect. Life finds a way to bring the balance back. As sure as the sun goes down every night, it comes right back up the next morning.

The law of attraction states that like attracts like. Simple. Lets take the law of gravity, are you going to jump off a bridge thinking you will float in mid-air? NO. So use the law of attraction to start bringing the things you want into your life. Or realize the negative things in your life are there because you have negative thought patterns, negative comments to others or about others, negative vibes, whatever you want to call it.

I know so many people who suffer because they choose to suffer and they don't even see that THEY are the reason for their own suffering. If you choose to see the negative side of every scenario in life, then life will only keep showing you negative scenario's. If negative is what you expect, then negative is what you will get.

Negativity is a disease. If we start treating it like that, wouldn't it be so easy to cure? If you could go to the drug store or doctors office & get an anti-negativity shot, would you go get it? Well make one up! Since 90% of life is mental anyways, lets say there is a cure for negativity, and you will be eternally happy if you use it. What would it be?

For most people the cure for negativity is exercise, eating a healthy diet, and staying on a regular schedule. Find your happy place, do the things that make you happy. Don't turn to food, drugs, or alcohol for the answer. Think back through your life, maybe even all the way back to your childhood, and try to remember something you did that made you happy. Now go find a way to do that now.

The one of the biggest problems we face today is acceptance. I'm talking about on an individual level here, not the masses. The masses will always cause chaos, this is inevitable

Acceptance is a deeper understanding of the things that we can not control in our lives. Yes, there are plenty of things we can control in our lives and that is part of the problem. We get so caught up in the things we can control, that we tend to start thinking we have control over more than we really do.

Take road rage for an example, this is nothing more than a case of "I think I can control other drivers." By getting angry & driving like a nut, flailing your arms in the air, you think others see you and say "oh my look at him, maybe I should slow down, speed up, or pull over so this guy can get where he needs to go." NO. Face it, everyone wants to get where they are going, and all you are doing is upping the stakes that someone will not live through the day, and chances are its going to be you.

Another example I love is standing in line at a grocery store. Oh my how we hate to spend money on our favorite thing, food. I worked in a grocery store when I was younger & can't even begin to tell you stories of the angry people in grocery stores, or the fools who could not wait 30 more seconds in line or the world was going to explode! (lol) I have to sit back and just laugh at this for a moment.

I myself have been in a hurry & not wanted to be in line behind the lady with a full cart as I had only 2 or 3 items. But I have learned to accept that she has every bit of right to be there, she has probally been shopping for an hour or more, probally is starving, and wants to get out of this store even more than I do! Why would I want to make my day worse, or her day worse, by sitting there and acting like a jerk over it?

The one thing I hope to accomplish in life is that I have taught my children how to be forgiving. Not just of others, but of themselves as well. Forgiveness is not something that has to be tied into religion, it is something we all have to have in our lives in order to have peace. Inner peace is forgiveness.

When you can accept the things that you have done in your life, right or wrong, good or bad, and allow yourself to move on from those things in a healthy way, you have found forgiveness. Remember the mistakes you have made in your life, but do NOT continue to feel guilty about them. This is the most unhealthy form of mental and emotional abuse a person can go through in life & we all do it to ourselves almost on a daily basis!

It usually takes something tragic, or someone else to say the things we say to ourselves to realize how drastic & terrible this form of self-torture is. Imagine someone else telling you that you look terrible in those pants, or imagine someone else constantly reminding you of that guy in college you should have never slept with but you did. Think of the horrible things you say to yourself & imagine someone else saying them, would you allow it to continue?

First, start making observations about yourself. Sit back and watch the show as though you were someone completely different, maybe even a complete stranger who knows nothing about you. This is called EMPATHY. When you can put yourself in someone else's shoes & see things the way they might.

Second, apply this same theory to the way you see others. Imagine the next person who drives you to anger has someone somewhere who is sick, maybe dying, maybe its his child. Maybe this guy has a reason to be angry with life, he feels a great injustice over his dying child. Wouldn't you? But here in lies the answer! He is angry at HIS life! This has nothing to do with you.

Third, realize that everyone is going to have issues in their life, it is how we deal with them that sets us apart. Do not allow the negative attitudes of others to influence your life, your way of thinking. Have an attitude of gratitude!

This saying could not be more true. In order to have less drama in your life, you have to change the way you see life. Change the way you view others, yourself, and change your expectations.

You must be the change you wish to see in the world.